Parties are currently open only to those who have been fully vaccinated. You must show your NYS Excelsior Pass Wallet for iPhone or Android OR your cardboard vaccination card with the CDC logo in the upper right-hand corner along OR other documentary evidence along with matching photo ID to enter. Your last dose must have been administered 14 days before the date you attend. Pictures and photocopies of your vaccination card are acceptable. If you were part of a vaccine trial, were unblinded and did indeed receive real vaccine and you have documentation to that effect, we will accept this as well. Foreign vaccine card equivalents, Green Passes, etc. will be accepted too. Remember to bring photo ID!
Our parties average 25-40 guys on a weekday and 40-60 on a weekend. Sometimes attendance exceeds averages, occasionally it is lower, but rarely is it below the bottom end of the ranges provided.
PLEASE ARRIVE AT THE BEGINNING OF THE PARTY. Arriving during the first hour is a good target. Door closure times listed above may be earlier if the party ends (everyone finishes and goes home), which happens occasionally, so the closer to the beginning the better. As long as there are people still playing at the party we remain open to maximum stated times, however if there is just one person left we end the party.
We have over 18,000 members so each party will have different guys in attendance, covering a wide range of physical types, sexual roles and ages -- from cubs / bear types in their late teens to mature daddies, skinny chasers to voluptuous superchubs. There should be guys there to suit every taste. We do not track and cannot offer any information concerning the appearance, sexual roles or interests of our members or the guys attending a specific party because every party is different. If you're interested in coming and having some fun, just go for it, and remember that your being there will make the party even better. Yes, as all of us reading this likely agree, more guys is usually better.
Yes, if you identify as male you're welcome.
Yes. We carry regular-sized condoms and water-based lube in packets. We try to stock large / gold condoms but can't guarantee their availability so if you have a big dick and you use condoms consider bringing a couple of the large ones.
We do not monitor your behavior as it pertains to safe sex. Here's the bottom line (and it's essentially the same as anywhere else): Condoms and lube are provided and most guys use them. We encourage you to know and understand the risks of sex without condoms and to protect yourself and your partner from the spread of infections. Ask the guy you're with what he's into and make an informed decision, just as you would in any other situation. We don't have the resources to enforce a condom-only policy and truly aren't able or interested in walking around with a flashlight checking in on groups of guys in the middle of a good time. Plus, with PreP the rules on condoms are changing. Yes, you might see some bare-backing but most of the guys practice safe sex at the party.
Several times a month we offer free and confidential (but not anonymous) HIV / STI testing through Mount Sinai Gay Men's Outreach Project during the Sunday party at Paddles. If you're on the mailing list, you'll see dates in our weekly e-mail, and you can get tested whether you pay to attend the party or not. The tester is there from 1:30-4:00 and will test for HIV antibodies (present two weeks after exposure), gonorrhea, syphilis and chlamydia. HIV and chlamydia results are available immediately and gonorrhea and syphilis results are emailed the Tuesday after your test. Positive HIV results will result in a second test done in a lab and a referral for ongoing care if needed. Also, a report of a positive result is sent to New York State. We do not advocate providing a fake name to the tester, however he does not ask for identification.
We don't adhere to a specific door closure time, but if you think you might show up later to see if anything is going on be prepared to find the crowd getting smaller or the party wrapping up or over. Earlier is better, we can't stress it enough.
Many of our members have told us they've never been to a party like this and / or they feel nervous and our answer is always the same: the bear-cub-chub-chaser community is friendly and welcoming and our parties are always laid-back and attitude-free. Expect a large space of guys hanging around mostly or fully naked, dim lighting, quiet conversation, touching, sucking, fucking, and other types of play. Come with a little patience and ready to hang out for a while before something interesting presents itself to you. Most of what takes place is out in the open; however, it is possible to find quieter corners if you prefer a bit more seclusion. We do not have private rooms. If you're a first-timer, give it a try. You only live once, right?
Yes, at all three locations there is at least one sling.
Yes, that's what it's all about, right? A group environment can be a huge turn-on for many guys. It's sort of like being in a porno without the video evidence. If you have a fantasy, be outspoken about what you want and it will be more likely to happen. For example, if you want to be a total pig and do this or that to a couple or a bunch of guys, tell them (or everyone around you) that that's what you want and they, being men, will likely oblige. For your personal satisfaction and enjoyment during the party it's best to come without very specific expectations and a little flexibility.
Sure, if you're not ready to take the plunge or you just get turned on by watching then by all means come check things out and see how you feel. There's no pressure to play.
No. Our parties proudly welcome all bears, daddies, cubs, chubs, superchubs, chasers, wolves, otters, pigs and any other guys who are 18 or older and fit to participate.
Nonetheless, it is a private party and in the interest of the enjoyment of the group we reserve to right to refuse entry to anyone for any reason; if we see that you are bothering other guests or disrupting the party we'll return your donation and politely ask you to leave. Please come showered and wear deodorant to avoid people complaining about your possible body odor.
Only if you want to be. As you would expect, you may not be into every guy and that works both ways. If you're unsure, ask permission. If someone is doing something you don't like just say, "No, thanks," ask him to stop or gently move his hand away.
Chocolates and soft drinks are available in the bar area at all three locations we use.
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